Silent No More!

In Isaiah 58:1 it states that we are to "Cry aloud and spare not. Lift up thy voice like a trumpet." It continues to say "And shew my people their transgression, and the house of Jacob their sins." When I think about this as it pertains to the hurting and abused, it is clear to me that we as the body of Christ have not done all that we can to help those that are hurting.

What happens to: If one hurts we all hurt. Isn't that what Paul was talking about in Romans 12? When he say in verse 15, "Rejoice with them that do rejoice, and weep with them that weep." Yet we allow our brothers and sisters to suffer day in and day out. We challenge them to speak about what has occurred to them and if they do we label them as problems. We rebuke them for voicing what occurred and how it made them feel. 

I remember all to well speaking about being molested and watching my Pastor roll his eyes and become extremely uncomfortable. This reaction cause me to shut up and suffer in silence. Not only did I shut out my voice for seeking for help with my emotional wounds, i shut off God's healing virtue in these areas because I felt it was something I had to suffer with. It happened to me because somehow, as a six year old child I had asked for it. I mean, that how I was made to feel. Now don't get me wrong, no one actually said it to me but actions DO speak louder than words.

In their attempts to hurry up and get me healed (whole) they told me to just get over it. It happened so many years ago and now you are an adult. Stop living in the past. I laugh now. But let me say this... telling someone that is hurt to just get over it is causing that person to assume guilt and blame themselves. the first question that is asked is: Why cant I just get over it? followed by I must have done something to deserve this behavior? and finally...this is my burden to bear alone.

Dear hearts, we are the body of Christ. NO one should have to suffer in silence. NO one should cry themselves to sleep, or have suicidal thoughts, or try to ease the pain with anything other than God's love. Let me say this, the first way for an abused person to feel God's love is through those who call themselves saints. 

The church is a hospital. A hospital is a place where the sick, abused, tattered and torn can come and be mended. No one should come to a place of worship and leave the same way they came. 

I don't know about you but I am tired of Church being a fashion show, a routine, a social club and anything but a hospital. No one says, Hey let's have girls night at the ER tonight, I'll bring the popcorn. I understand that we have events and evangelism to get the unchurched to come. I agree with this wholeheartedly, but I say this if you are going to get them in the doors have something there to offer to them when they come with REAL issues. Deliverance is available, if we the body of Christ would get our flesh out of the way and serve the Lord as he intended. Just look at Jesus, he was our example. he did ministry in a real hands on way. No one that met Jesus ever stayed the same. That same Jesus is now on the inside of us. No one should ever leave a service with their needs not being met.

Healing is available. Let's stop playing church and be the church. The body of Christ needs to be healed and delivered and that can only happen when we are real with ourselves and take responsibility for and to each other.

Man down on the field...will you help them get up?

You are Bound No More. 

Pastor Linda Hillman 

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month

It’s not always easy to tell at the beginning of a relationship if it will become abusive. In fact, many abusive partners may seem absolutely perfect in the early stages of a relationship. Possessive and controlling behaviors don’t always appear overnight, but rather emerge and intensify as the relationship grows.

Domestic violence doesn’t look the same in every relationship because every relationship is different. But one thing most abusive relationships have in common is that the abusive partner does many different kinds of things to have more power and control over their partners.

If you’re beginning to feel as if your partner or a loved one’s partner is becoming abusive, there are a few behaviors that you can look out for. Watch out for these red flags and if you’re experiencing one or more of them in your relationship, call the hotline to talk about what’s going on.

• Telling you that you can never do anything right
• Showing jealousy of your friends and time spent away
• Keeping you or discouraging you from seeing friends or family members
• Embarrassing or shaming you with put-downs
• Controlling every penny spent in the household
• Taking your money or refusing to give you money for expenses
• Looking at you or acting in ways that scare you
• Controlling who you see, where you go, or what you do
• Preventing you from making your own decisions
• Telling you that you are a bad parent or threatening to harm or take away your children
• Preventing you from working or attending school
• Destroying your property or threatening to hurt or kill your pets
• Intimidating you with guns, knives or other weapons
• Pressuring you to have sex when you don’t want to or do things sexually you’re not comfortable with
• Pressuring you to use drugs or alcohol

** Someone reading this was slapped, punched, kicked, choked, and beaten last night. It can stop today. Contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline @ 1−800−799−7233 or TTY 1−800−787−3224




You are Bound No More.



Pastor Linda Hillman
Pastorlindahillman@hotmail.com

Healing The Hurts

• Emotional Abuse
• Christian wounds
• Hurt in the church
• Domestic Violence
• Harboring negative feelings
• Holding grudges. It hurts ourselves more than others

Someone once said that holding a grudge is like drinking poison and hoping that it will hurt the other person. But yet many of us do it and cant see that we are really killing ourselves.

You can choose to hurt or Heal

You can choose your happiness or sadness in life. One way to do this when you choose whether to continue to nurse a hurt you have received in life, or to heal yourself and you relationship with the person that hurt you.

In reaction to our emotional hurts we often erect protective structures to avoid dealing with them or allowing anyone to touch them. Over time these structures become comfortable. Before we cna heal the hurt, these structures must be acknowledged and dealt with. this will often mean honestly facing our pain and anger and resentment choosing to forgive, YES forgive those who have wounded us instead of resenting them, and determining to risk opening our hearts to others again. It also generally involves a slow and difficult process not a quick fix. Like peeling an onion, it usually happens one tearful layer at a time.

Definition

A wounded heart occurs when someone or something brings hurt to your emotions. "The words of a talebearer are as wounds, and they fo down into the innermost parts of the belly." Proverbs 26:22.

Sources of Hurts

1. Result of Offense brought to us from others People say things or do things to hurt us. Prov 18:8
2. Result from our won sinful behavior. Not all hurts come from without. sometimes they can be the enemy within. Prov 17:19, Psalms 25:18 II Sam 24:10
3. Result from a calamity where one is overcome by the experience. Job 3:25-26
4. Result from the sins of forefathers (ancestors) Exodus 34:6-7
5. Result from drug and alcohol use. Proverbs 23:29-35
6. results from occult involvement Leviticus 20:6

God's Provision

1. God cares about your broken heart. Ps 34:18, 51:17
2. God healed David's heart and He will also heal yours. Ps 147:3, Heb 13:8
3. Jesus was sent to heal the broken hearted. Luke 4:18
4. Jesus, Himself, suffered all the hurts that one could suffer. Isa 53:1-12, John 1:11. Luke 22:57, 23:35-37, Matthew 27:46
5. Through the suffering of Jesus, God has provided the healing for your hurts. Isa 53:5
6. It is God's desire to heal your hurts. I Peter 5:7
7. God must have control of your whole heart before He can heal it. Jeremiah 29:13, Rev 3:20

Steps of Preparation

1. You must give your heart to Jesus letting Him become your lord. Roman 10:9, Phil 2:9-10
2. If you have offended someone else, then you must confess your offense and ask them to forgive you. Matthew 5:23-24, I Peter 3:16
3. You must forgive (RELEASE) the person who has hurt you. Matt 6:12, 14-15
4. You must put their judgement into God's hands and then ask God to forgive them for their offense toward you. Luke 23:24, Acts 7:60
5. You must yield your rights to God (possessions, respect, honor, family, expectations). Matt 19:21, I Peter 5:5-6, Luke 18:20, Mark 8:34-37, Psa 119:165

WARNING: A wounded heat that does not receive healing is an open door for evil spirits. Esp 4:26-27, I Peter 5:8, Genesis 4:4-7, Matt 18:21-35

How to Receive Healing

1. Make a list of your hurts (begin with the greatest list)
2. Ask God to cleanse your heart of all wrong attitudes (anger, bitterness, resentment, unforgiveness, lust, hate, revenge). Isa 1:18, 51:10, I John 1:9
3. Picture your experience ob being hurt in your mind
4. Now picture Jesus suffering the same hurt for you and overcoming it by his own death and resurrection. I Peter 2:24
5. Next picture in your mind the resurrected Jesus offering healing to you. Luke 4:18-19
6. In faith ASK God to heal your heart in the name of Jesus. Ezekiel 36:26, John 16:23.

As God heals your hurts, He will also give you a tender heart that will be sensitive to the hurts of others. Ezekiel 36:26, II Cor 5:18, Mark 5:19

Remember: God can change that which was meant for evil into good. Genesis 50:20, Duet 23:5 Romans 8:28, I Peter 5:8-10 and II Cor 1:6

You are Bound No More. 


Pastor Linda Hillman 
(c) 2011 Living Above Hurt Ministries
(209) 565-4055 
Pastorlindahillman@hotmail.com

Update For Bound No More Series

Bound No More Series has been postponed. Initially we were going to start June 28th. However due to the content of the material and information we will cover, I wanted to make sure we have time to promote it well. If you know anyone that is struggling with abuse of any nature, Please connect then to me. This series is going to be powerful and if this weekend was any indication of what will occur OH my my my... Its going to be liberating and full of God's demonstration of his power over the enemy (The Devil) and his love for each person there.

Now let me say this...

It is my hope that as God directs us to be more compassionate towards his broken hearted children that he will give us strategies that will not only allow us to be more effective in the healing and deliverance ministry that this series will become but that God will teach us how to better serve one another through love. 

It is said hurt people, hurt people. I am a living witness of this and I understand how devastating that can be. It is my prayer that if you feel a desire to be apart of this ministry, that you will contact me. We need volunteers in every area of service. We want to have a very present online and in person ministry. That means, I can not do it all alone. 

There is a balm in Stockton, CA and it is spreading across the nation and even the world.

You are Bound No More!

Pastor Linda Hillman 

(c) 2014 Living Above Hurt Ministries 

(209) 565-4055 

Pastorlindahillman@hotmail.com

Bound No More

The one thing we need but many of us struggle to get is respect. In life, we will go through some hard times and if we are lucky, we will be able to come out on the winning side. However, what about the one that are caught in the cracks. Is there hope for the woman whose been abused (emotionally, mentally, physically or socially)? Who is there to let that woman know there is hope in her hopeless situation?

We hear so much about sisterhood yet we are set apart. We gossip about one another steal each other men and if we get the chance, we will ruin another’s reputation so we look good. Now does this sound like sisterhood? More importantly how are we being good examples for the girls and women to come after us? Are we allowing them to find hope for their situations? Let me share my story and may be, someone will see there is hope and make a change for the better.

As a teenager, I suffered being molested, verbally abused and lived in a house raging with domestic violence. I grew up with anger issues and never tried to deal with them. I had relationship after relationship fail. One day I came to the realization that the life I was living was just a shadow of what could be. I did not have to live with the pain, frustration and depression. I could rise above it. I could be free. However, I knew that it would take some restoration of my inner emotions. I would have to learn how to look at life differently, not using my own reasoning because it was skewed and fragile.

I sought help from counselors and coaches that help my see past the hurt, habits and hang-ups. I was able to start a relationship on a healthy note and those negative friends – well I was able to influence them to be more positive. This did not happen over night it only started with a single step.

The first step can be the hardest however, if you are truly ready for healing to occur in your life then you will allow this step to take place, including removing all negative and unhealthy influences in your life. Many times, it is what we allow in our lives that hinder us the most. I had to deal with the past in order to maintain my present and secure my future.

We learned in history that if we do not learn from history it is bound to repeat itself. Well, this is true even in our lives. If we are not willing to learn from bad decisions, our fears, our failure and, even more importantly, our successes then we are bound to repeat them. Dr. Susan Jeffers says, “Life is not a struggle but an opportunity”. Additionally, you only get a single opportunity to make it count. Do not live with regret and remorse. Not to make light of the experiences you have been through, Nevertheless, if I can learn to let go of the pain and anger, then why not you?